Don’t Be A Twitter Snob, Focus on Friendships

Relationships are at the heart of good use of Flickr. Today Vera Raposo (follow her at @veraraposo) from Small Business Branding shares some tips on being more relational with Twitter.

Recently at my site I put out a question to my readers, “Are You A Twitter Snob?” It was something I’ve been thinking about for some time. It really started to annoy me when people would join Twitter, have all these followers and then never follow people back. It also was bothering me that people are just not taking the time to reply back to others. The post really turned more into a rant than anything but I think it got a good point across. After my rant was done I figured, now I really need to take the time to come up with some positive ways we can connect with others on Twitter.

friendship.pngImage by notsogood

Here are five of the more common ways we can build relationships with others via the use of Twitter.

1. Connect with Friends & Family

Whether you’re a stay at home mom, small business owner, or just looking for some friendly conversation, Twitter is a great place to forge new friendships. You can easily begin following those with similar interests and before you know it, you’ve made friends from all over the world.

Ever wonder what happened to your best buds in high school or college? Twitter has been used to connect with old friends from the past as well. Unlike MySpace or Facebook type sites, Twitter makes it easy to talk with others in real time instead of leaving a message and waiting for your friends to sign on and reply.

Are you a military family who moves a lot? Do you attend college in a different state than your family lives? Do you travel for work? If you spend time away from your family and would like a way to keep in touch that is more personal than email, try Twitter.

2. Find Work

Many times Twitter users post employment or freelance opportunities. They may need a freelance writer to put together a few articles for them or a graphics designer to create images for their website. Other Twitter users also post about jobs they know of that might interest their followers.

3. Gain New Customers and Clients

As a business owner, you should already know that word of mouth advertising is one of the best and least expensive ways to gain new business. With Twitter it’s not uncommon to see business owners plugging their own products to their followers. Perhaps even better, is when others who have used the product begin talking about it to their followers?

By following those in your target market on Twitter, you put yourself in a position to find out exactly what it is they need. What better way to do market research and maybe even make a few friends in the process. Just no spamming pretty please..

4. Find Products or Services You’re In Need of

As a consumer, word of mouth plays a big factor in whether or not you decide to buy a product. By communicating with other Twitter users, you learn what businesses are worth buying from and which to steer clear of. Twitter users will gladly share their opinions of products or services that they’ve used in the past.

Looking for a particular product or service and have trouble finding it? Don’t fret; your Twitter pals can more than likely lend a hand. Just sign in and ask your followers if they know where you can find it.

5. Form Partnerships

Because Twitter includes people from all over the world, the chances of meeting someone you may not have ever come in connect with otherwise, are high. You might have an affiliate program that fits the needs of a website owner half way across the globe.

There have also been many business partnerships blossom on Twitter. Do you have a passion for something, but don’t have all the skills necessary to make it a money making reality alone? Following those with the same interests can lead to turning your dream into actuality by forming a joint venture.

Twitter is a powerhouse on the Internet when it comes to forming relationships with others. Whether you’re just looking for some conversation, want to keep abreast of the latest news around the world, or are looking for thoughts and opinions a particular item, the site has a way of giving you what you seek through those who use it. Relationships are what make the world go around and when you aren’t limited to a small area, but instead have the entire world to connect with, the possibility of forming lasting relationships is a promising one. :-)

Comments

  • November 25, 2008

    Before i read your post, i was just saying how i am always disappointed with people on twitter not replying to @replies, or the lack of responses i receive when i ask a question. However, thanks to twitter, i have found some very intriguing people who have an interest in what i do and i’m very grateful for that.
    Thanks for your advice! I began using twitter not long before you launched this blog and it has helped me to become a more effective twitter user!

  • November 25, 2008

    Great post – absolutely concur! And thanks for mentioning military users – we have a lot of military spouses who use it as a great way to connect, and I’ve been thrilled to see deployed Soldiers using it, as well – the digital age has really been such a benefit for our amazing men and women serving in the military. I’ve really appreciated how some inital business users have slowly begun to “get-it” and start engaging in conversations rather than throwing out an RSS feed!

  • November 25, 2008

    Knowing someone’s little steps, random thoughts, burning questions, helps one build a sense of that person, helps getting to know him/her. And that is the core of any successful trust relationship. Long live twitter! :)

  • November 25, 2008

    I don’t think Twitter is a good way to keep in touch with old friends and family. It is just not as personal as an e-mail. However, I do think it’s a good way to keep track of what your family and friends are up to.

  • November 25, 2008

    A great post that hit home for me. I share the same frustrations. I like twitter to be a balance of work and fun for me, developing some relationships while helping promote my blog work. I try to follow anyone who has the same interests as me. If someone doesn’t follow me back after few weeks I usually stop following them unless they are just great to read about. Why bother if you can’t communicate through DM and @?

    Great tips to incorporate. Thanks!

  • November 25, 2008

    Twitter is a just “another” communication tool. When used by socially “smart” people, it’s a way to stay connected. When it’s used by self promoting jerks – well it’s just another way to annoy people.

    By the way, my use of Twitter has increased GREATLY since you introduced me to Twhirl. THANK YOU DARREN! I wondered how anyone got any work done with all those windows open – now I know the “secret” to productivity AND using Twitter!

  • November 25, 2008

    This is EXCELLENT! I truly believe that Twitter is a wonderful form of social networking that allows us to connect to so many people whether they are friends, family, jv partners, customers, etc. I can’t stand it when so-called Social Networking ‘guru’s’ want me to buy their products or subscribe to their information yet won’t even take the time to follow me back on Twitter or respond to a tweet. It’s just rude. Or even better- when someone has 1000 followers yet they are only following 50. What does that say about them? Twitter Snob.

    Thanks for posting this article!
    -Kelley

  • November 25, 2008

    Thanks for the validation that I am not a snob. Yesterday, a popular Twitter user made a casual comment regarding my background resulting in 25 new followers (I usually see one or two a week). Last night, I carefully went through each of their links, reviewed their websites and followed back.

    Twitter is about the conversation and the network, it does not happen in a vacuum. Follow back! You never know what fascinating new friends and colleagues you will find.

  • November 25, 2008

    Good point! At first glance Twitter is very confusing for new folks. It took me a couple tries to actually figure out the value. Now I enjoy dropping in to say “hi” and see what my friends are doing. I’ve developed friendships on twitter that I otherwise never would have found.

  • November 25, 2008

    >>>It really started to annoy me when people would join Twitter, have all these followers and then never follow people back.

    I’m curious as to why so many people feel being followed back is an “entitlement” simply because they follow a person. I have 2200+ followers and I follow 96 people. I cannot follow 2200 people (and don’t believe anyone truly can) and frankly, have zero interest in what some of my followers discuss. I’m not going to follow people just to protect their egos and destroy the usefulness of Twitter to me – which is being able to follow Twitter streams of mega interest to me and good friends. I appreciate that peeps follow me, but it doesn’t mean I’m obligated to follow back.

    That said, I do agree on the replies – when people talk to me, I talk back regardless of whether or not I’m following. Reciprocal following isn’t important in my book – but acknowledgment is.

  • November 25, 2008

    Thank you for voicing the frustration I often feel when trying to make that connection on Twitter. Time and time again I see one sided conversations and wonder WHY many people have even joined this network.

    The 5 common ways to build a relationship are great reminders as to how to effectively use this incredible tool. May I also add that when sharing your product or business opportunity, to remember that whether it is twitter, facebook, my space, squidoo or whatever tools you are using to offer value to those who have trusted you to become friends, step away from your opportunity or product long enough to get to know those around you and test the waters to see if you have the right fit for that particular community.

    Thank you so much, Vera, for voicing my thoughts in such a clear way.

    To your success and beyond!

  • November 25, 2008

    I like the fact that this points out the many facets of how twitter can be used by a variety of people for a variety of reasons. Good points!

  • November 25, 2008

    For me this overlaps with the question: do you follow everyone who follows you? The other day I sent a Twitter @ reply to someone asking about her work. She never replied. I stopped following her, and am quite sure she doesn’t care.

    That is not the way for this person, who is a writer, to build a following–or make friends. I thought she was a Twitter snob, and it was confirmed.

    I think that Twitter is a great way to connect with like-minded strangers, especially if you search for topics that interest you and send replies to posts. Slowly you build a list of those with whom you have a mutually beneficial Twitter relationship, whether it’s info, entertainment or life and times bits.

  • November 25, 2008

    I’ve built quite a few friendships and met several business clients on Twitter this year. It’s been great for keeping me sane during the day as a virtual water cooler, so to say. It’s definitely fun to chatter on and keep in touch with the outside world, especially since I work from home.

  • November 25, 2008

    Very good post. From this I can see no harm in following people that had interest in your posts. They very well could be future clients, especially since you have already interested them with your daily feed. This may be best though for a professional twitter account, one you may tweet to but not follow the feeds too religiously. To me there is a fine line on how much information I can have sent to me or I’ll feel like I’m missing out on the people I really want to follow. So maybe Twitter Professionals can look into having both a Personal and Work account, unfortunately this then hinders your ability to provide tweets to both accounts that may draw that traffic. *torn*

  • November 25, 2008

    Really intersting and inciteful article. No sooner had I finished, I posted a link to it on my own blog. Share and share alike!

  • November 25, 2008

    This is about as good a time as any to post my own rant about Twits who carry on personal communications in the public forum. Isn’t that what DM is for? All those back and forth posts about something that is just between two individuals fills up a lot of space.
    So yes, I think Twitter is a great communication tool and I have made friends from all over. I love having a window into the lives of some of the best and brightest social media minds. I’m flattered when they think I have something worthwhile to say and disappointed when they don’t respond to my direct comments or questions. Rude is rude – whether in person on online. And don’t give me that “I’m just so busy” crap. We are all busy. Get over it.

  • November 25, 2008

    I think people don’t reply back because they have a wrong notion of twitter. They’re still stuck in the “status message” mode where it’s about “me” not about the community. Twitter is meant for community, it’s a face paced social network built around 140 characters per thought. Plus for some people it’s harder to keep up with all the stuff that’s going on. It’s like they won’t respond unless they see some sort of ‘profit’ with it, which totally defeats the community spirit on twitter.

  • November 25, 2008

    Another interesting topic. I have one question though? You say you can find people that you lost touch with on Twitter… How??? The search function still doesn’t work last I checked and since lots of people use biz names or nicknames, how would you find someone?

    I agree about people “ignoring” you. You try to comment on a converation putting the @whoever in and it’s like you are talking to yourself. Maybe that’s the fault of whatever software they are using. With OutTwit I have a folder for @yourwebchick so even when I’m afk I respond back to them.

    Here is another pet peeve of mine.. people follow you.. You go to check them out and they block followers? Not sure what that’s all about.. anyone??

  • November 25, 2008

    After just cleaning out my Following list (cut about 100+) I have to say that I approach this a little different. I have a specific scope for Twitter. Following people outside of that scope doesn’t meet my needs and just adds distraction.

    If someone follows me I will in turn follow them. If after a while I don’t see it being in my scope I will stop following. I just don’t see a need to follow every person/bot/marketing puke that follows me if no value or dialog is created. I really can’t stand the Tweet users that follow everyone and are on constant broadcast only and who never reply.

  • November 25, 2008

    When you have three or 400 friends and followers it may make sense to follow everybody who follows you. If you’re fortunate enough to have thousands of followers, following everybody who follows you is at best impractical and at worst disingenuous.

    Twitter has a wonderful mechanism – the @ symbol. it’s a great equaliser, you can contact anybody regardless of race, rank, colour or status. I try very hard to respond to everybody who @’s me. When I do respond it’s a direct message – in that way my twitter feed does not look like a very rude one-way telephone conversation (to use Darren’s metaphor).

    Twitter has fundamentally changed the way I communicate with a very large group of people who incredibly feel I have something useful to say. It’s truly revolutionary. However, I will not follow everybody who follows me, yes I could, but I won’t. That doesn’t mean I am a twitter snob! I use twitter as a mission-critical communication tool with my team and networking mastermind, mates from school and people who are just incredibly funny.

    if I followed everybody who followed me and they just typed two messages a day on twitter and it took me three seconds to read each tweet. It would take me 14 hours every day just just to read my stream! Let alone, actually respond to anyone.

    You see, this is where the disingenuous part comes in. If I follow you, I really follow you, I have a real interest in what you’re up to and what’s interesting you. If I followed everybody, somehow people believe that you would show exactly that same level of interest in everybody. As the previous paragraph pointed out – that is just impossible. And that, for me, is disingenuous. It’s just not possible to have that level of relationship and I think it’s much easier ( And ultimately much more genuine) to respond to people who use the @ symbol.

    If you want a chat, I published my skype username on my blog and will absolutely friend anyone who wishes to contact me that way — that’s what skype was designed for. Twitter was designed as a service one person could notify a whole group of people about what they were doing — NOT FOR CHAT! — Twitter would not have enjoyed the wild growth that it currently is if it was just another IM platform. It Is Different. It annoys me that people are trying to turn it into something that it’s not.

    The second reason that you should not follow everyone who follows you is it encourages spam. Twitter is the ultimate spam resistant service — AS LONG AS — you are selective about who you follow. If you’re not selective, then you will get spam. the founders of Twitter have recognized this and actually put strict limits on how many people you can follow.

    Twitter is extraordinary, it’s change the way I do business. Used properly it’s the most extraordinary thing to use to communicate with your market, just remember, it was designed as a notification service to let your friends (or your market) know what you’re up to. It was never designed to chat.

    Ed

  • November 25, 2008

    Great post & not a rant at all. You merely channeled and expressed the frustrations of a lot ot ‘twitizens’.

    I am particularly peeved by those who follow & block you from following.

    Those who DM you and straight off try to get you to check out their website for something or make a purchase. I may follow you back if you follow me but will not check out your site due to the ‘guerrilla type’ solicitation.

    Those who have some sort of ‘automated ‘thanks for following me’ message aimed primarily at solicitation.

    I like those who actually thank you, using your name! It shows these are real people who understand the value and intricacies of social networking.

    I follow just about anyone who has taken the time and effort to follow me! It shows respect. Someone even followed me from Brazil! How exciting!

    Darren – quick thought or suggestion; how about setting up a system to find out who knows whom on Twitter through whom! A Twitter version of ’six degrees of separation’. You know a “tweet degree of separation. I am intrigued to know how many people we follow through others! Hope it makes sense?

    Michael.

  • November 25, 2008

    @michaelkpoh You mean like they do in Linked-In… That would be interesting however I follow people from blog posts and from their blogs or websites but I suppose it could/would tell you that too.. Interesting notion!

  • November 25, 2008

    Like anything else in life, it’s all about balance. If you use Twitter for a singular purpose you’re missing out.
    I tweet when I’ve posted something new on a site, I answer questions that folks ask (sometimes), if some one asks for help and I know an answer I reply@, if I see one of my “tribe” hanging out I’ll say howdy. I think that doing all of these things helps my experience with Twitter to be robust and rewarding.

    Cheers

    George

  • November 25, 2008
    Larry Wallace
    @glwallace

    Nice post. Twitter is a great tool to create new relationships with. I liken it to being at a party. There are lots of people there from all walks of life and everyone is chatting about what’s important to them. You find a few people that are interesting and you introduce yourself to them. Or they introduce themselves to you. If you like what they have to say, you become friends. If you are a good friend, you introduce them to the rest of your friends. And your network grows. What I love most about twitter, is that people I am friends with on twitter, I probably would have never have had the opportunity to meet them at a party.

  • November 25, 2008

    @yourwebchick Yes sort of; for instance I usually follow people based off those I am already following. I see or check out people being followed by those I am following and then folow them if they interest me. The rule – I use is – they must be good fpor me to follow if followers are following them! Ha too many ‘follows’ in one place huh!

    What I envisage is something or a mechanism where one can easily determine the linkages b/n people on Twitter.

    So for example I can type in a keyword which will let me know that I am linked to xyz through A or G or Y? Make sense?

    You know how in life the claim is that we know others through six different people!

    Michael.

  • November 25, 2008

    I posted a short blog last month called the “3 Rs of Twitterquette”. I think it falls right in line with what you’re saying here:

    http://blog.tastynectar.com/2008/10/3-rs-of-twitterquette/

  • November 25, 2008

    unlike a lot of people i am at a point in my life where i am painfully honest.. so my real true opinions don’t end up google results, i have protected updates. so.. when i follow someone unless they follow me then i can’t reply to them… i think that is the most frustrating.. replying to someone and it never goes thru.. i finally get aggrivated and just stop following them..

  • November 25, 2008

    @yourwebchick : yes something akin to the LinkedIn format.

    You know how they say we are linked or separated from others in life by six people – ’six degrees of separation’.

    I would like to see some sort of mechanism or program on Twitter where I can type in a name and it will either list by name or number, the linkages or number of people who separate or connect say ‘michaelkpoh’ from ‘yourwebchick’.

    In our case there will be none or the number will be zero since we follow each other directly without any intermediaries.

    Hope I am making sense?

    Michael.

  • November 25, 2008

    Twitter is a good way to network, this are great tips.

  • November 25, 2008

    Might be a Snob ups hard thing to say, and to stop be.

  • November 25, 2008

    Hi Darren,

    I love Twitter and Love your Articles , and yes I agree you should build friendships

    Just Last week I sent a URL to someone about a gadget show video review of a new camera , didn’t have a thank you or anything

    maybe just forgot

  • November 25, 2008

    “I am particularly peeved by those who follow & block you from following.”

    I read this comment above – Wow, how rude! I didn’t even know you could do that. Obviously I’m a pretty new Tweet but, geez – I can’t even think of anything else to say – it’s just so rude.

    This blog is the next best thing since Twitter, lol. I’m learning a lot and finding cool tools.

  • November 25, 2008

    Good post — I agree with you that the real value in Twitter is building relationships and not trying to optimize your Twitter Ratio / Grade / Score by getting lots of people to follow you and not listening to what they have to say in return.

  • November 25, 2008

    Thanks you for commenting. :-) I will comment back to everyone who posts here because this post is about NOT being a snob, and I shall not be one. :-)

    @Valeria ditto!

    @Derek Good point! But I love sharing jokes etc instead of those long drawn out emails people in my family send to me.

    @Priia I can see your point, why should you give somoene your time when they don’t give you theirs. It’s a two way street. My focus too is not to build relationships with everyone and their dog, but I look for people I may “click” with instead.

    @amy Yes I agree it’s a great way to cast your net wider. Personally I’m not a huge forums and only belong to a small few and only post on one regularly, so Twitter has filled a gap there for me to be able to meet new people as well. I also think that sometimes people will miss your responses, I may try a few more times but then I would move onto someone else.

    @Carolyn LOl! I love all the funny names we come up with for Twitter. Twitter Twits! I can see what you mean about filling up lots of space. You said it right, we’re all busy no matter who you are!

    @Yu But don’t we all have a bit of an ego? I think the smart people realize it’s not all about them at all. It’s more about the twitter community and reaching new people. Yes, you need to have a good spirit on twitter, I use it mostly to connect and have a good time while taking a break from work.

    @Chris well I didn’t necessarily mean “searching” for them
    I just meant like if you haven’t talked to someone in awhile it’s easier to talk with them in real time than it is on the other sites where you have to wait for them to login. The search function on “Find People” is more an invite others type feature now which has changed recently from what I can see. One more thing, if you click the search link at the bottom and type in someone’s name you can see if others are talking about them and that might help you find people too.

    @michaelkpoh Glad it didn’t sound like too much of a rant, because it was seriously irritating me. lol. I haven’t had tons of experience with being blocked, how do you even tell? Also, if you look at my response to Chris above, you’ll see about how to find out who’s talking about who, that may help. I was going to automate a message, but would never ask them to check out an offer, it would be a simple hello and maybe my website url. Haven’t done that yet though.

    @Tumblemoose Yes, I like to just have fun with it all connecting with others. We are all REAL people.

    @Larry yes, I’ve heard a party, water cooler at the office, lunch with a friend, etc. it’s all fun. Good point though, the people we connect with in the Twitter world is very different from an offline party, and even very different than a forum online as well.

    @Christhian Thanks!

    @Hector it’s good to not be a snob. :-)

    @David Glad you liked the article here, sucks that people don’t respond but maybe it’s good to try again?

    @Stuart Thanks! I do the same thing when building other online relationships, I don’t focus on tons of people but one person at a time. People know if you’re genuine too.

  • November 25, 2008

    Vera, you and I just had an engaging conversation about this – so this is more for public consumption that you at this point ;) I have to say that I don’t agree with the idea that it’s rude not to follow someone back.

    I don’t want to be seen as rude – especially by those who have expressed an interest in me. But Twitter isn’t like a website based social network where I can add someone as a friend and only see them when I feel like visiting the site again. Twitter is my ‘virtual water cooler’ – it’s running by on my screen just about every minute of my day.

    Who I follow back and why versus who I don’t follow and why is a crazy combination of professional interest and personal affinity – an algorithm that would surely rival Google for it’s complexity.

    I need my Twitter stream to add value to my day – and only I can really judge what that value should be. I certainly want to add value back for those who choose to follow me – and if they enjoy my tweets, I think that’s accomplished whether I follow them back or not.

  • November 26, 2008

    Hey Darren

    That’s a great post you put together, Although I have to admit that I have messaged you about a video I put together entitled TOP 5 TWITTER TIPS and asked you to look it over as I gave TwiTip a special mention at the end. But I got absolutely no response from you, which is pretty snobish. I honestly think that what your doing with TwiTip.com is fantastic and I’ll keep coming back as a dedicated visitor. I’d just like to see you practice what you preach.

    Cheers!
    Oren Todoros
    http://www.seovice.com

    btw – here’s the link to SeoVice Episode 16 again in case you missed it:
    http://www.seovice.com/2008/11/seovice-episode-16-top-5-twitter-tips.html

  • November 26, 2008

    I agree that it is annoying sometimes when people don’t reply or you have followers not willing to be as friendly as it seemed in the first place. Twitter has big exposure and socializing opportunities and yet it feels as if you are terribly alone sometimes. You see others engage in interesting conversations and no one is apparently in the mood to share with you. You suddenly remember those days when you were the last one to be chosen when making the team for your favorite sport or when no one wanted to dance with you at the prom… Well, I think that when many people turn their backs on you is because you deserve it somehow. You said the wrong thing, publicized your stuff too much, used irony, did something with a hidden purpose, made bad jokes, etc. On the other hand, there is absolutely no way you can please everyone, so that should not be a source of frustration. I believe that we want to give Twitter the traits of other networks which it hasn’t. Following someone here is too easy and you also have free will to unfollow. It is like an enormous anthill in which you never stop connecting with your peers. Sometimes you feel good vibrations and go after that ant and work together, some other times you dodge them. The fact that Twitter is like this makes it even more interesting. It is meant to give the best out of you and not just you. You don’t do it, you are just ignored. Thanks @veraraposo for your wonderful post and suggestions.

  • November 26, 2008

    hmm… i’ve been thinking about this alot… since i’ve actually have stopped following some people because either they are constantly spewing off opinions i don’t agree with and agitate me, or that the constantly tweet links to their own site. i’m not talking one or two, like almost enough to fill the half the twitter page, choking out all the other tweets.

    i generally add people who tweet regularly, who make thoughtful or funny tweets, people who add value to my twitter experience. i hope that’s not being snobby

  • November 27, 2008

    Well once again I’m posting some responses to everyone who participated by commenting I don’t normally post back to every single comment but I thought for this particular post it would be fun to. :-)

    @Trudy Yes the lack of responses is what annoys me too. Glad you found some intriguing people, those are the ones to focus on for sure. I also love this blog, I’m a big twitter fan and it’s great to have a blog to chat about it all.

    @Lindy It amazes me that we even have the technology to allow for soldiers who are deployed to communicate with their family at home. I think it’ll still take time for people to finally see the huge benefit that Twitter really is.

    @Lori I rarely use the DM myself, it’s more for my really close business friends. I don’t want to get on there and DM people and drive them nuts, it’s already hard to keep up to our email inboxes. At the same time, I love the fact that I can connect with friends and share a private twitter chat. I can see your point about not following people if they don’t follow back.

    @Kathy A great tool it is. I guess I don’t notice the jerks all that much, and I do like to get updates on certain programs but I don’t want to see that overused. Cool about Twhirl! I tried it and didn’t care for it, but may just give it another whirl. :-)

    @Debra How cool is that?? Just one tiny comment got you in contact with a bunch of new people. I love to follow back because you never know who you may miss if you don’t.

    @Kristal I have met alot of people on Twitter vs. forums, I’m not a huge fan of forums but Love twitter!

    @Rae I think it’s up to each person how they use Twitter. I don’t think it’s a sense of entitlement that we have, it’s just the fact that we want to get to know you. If you look at it from my perspective… I follow you, get all your updates, even reply then you reply back. But I don’t show up in your timeline at all, how can you remember me? How can I make contact with you on Twitter so you can see that I may just be someone you could have a relationship with or refer business etc.? I don’t think the @replies are enough. I agree with you on the replies, it’s imporant to be responsive with people. :-)

    @Kelly I’m so thankful you posted you offer us all some great advice to those who are just thinking on “business.” To your success & beyond!

    @amy :-)

    @Loretta Love the virtual water cooler, I visit when I have a break for lunch or just finished a big project as well. And sometimes it can be just plain fun to tell eachother some jokes and talk less “biz” for a while.

    @Matt You said it, those people could very well be future clients. It is an idea to have more than one twitter account, I do. But they are for different websites in other niches so the traffic is not lost. I think if you just want to be personal, Facebook is also a very good option.

    @James Me too, when I’m finished all these @replies I will be featuring Darren’s site on my blog as well. :-)

    @Carolyn I sometimes like to follow it if it’s getting juicy but at the same time, yes if it’s going to take up too much space DM is a good option, we need to respect other people’s timelines as well. I too get disappointed when I @reply to someone and they don’t respond back. :(

    @Thomas You’ve made an excellent point! That you will follow someone and if they fall into your scope then you continue to see if dialogue can happen. If they don’t, you just unfollow them. THAT to me makes complete sense, by problem is when people don’t even check you out.

    @Ed You’ve brougt up some really great points but I’d love to show you my side of the @conversation ;-) Like I’ve said before, everyone has the right to use Twitter how they like. You mention that if you read every tweet it would take you 14 hours every day just to read the stream, but why not scan? I see what you mean it you’re interested in someone, then you’re showing a true interest. But what if there’s someone out there that could truly benefit your business? Maybe you’d miss them? Maybe Twitter was designed as a service one person could notify a bunch of people what they were doing, and not for chat like you say… But again we come to the realization that everyone uses Twitter differently. I personally really love Twitter, and wish I didn’t waste the time thinking if it would benefit my business at all because it really does. Thanks for your comment, you’ve brought up some interesting points about Twitter. :-)

    @kyle Thanks! I’ll be sure to check it out.

    @paisley I think it’s great that Twitter has that private feature for those that are using it more for personal reasons. I don’t like to give out any personal info over the internet.

    @Christhian Glad you liked the tips.

    @David I think things can easily be missed as well.

    @Vickie I knew that you could block people from following and I think that’s a good thing if someone seems a little nuts. I had that situation myself where the person was a bit odd so I blocked them. And yes, this is a great blog for Twitter users, lots of great tools!

    @kellymccausey Yes, I enjoyed our late night chat on this subject. Thanks for also sharing here. It’s really important that it adds value to our busy lives and doesn’t take up tons of our time. Twitter is a great tool used wisely.

    @Oren You know email is such a tough thing as well as DM we all get tons of email in a day and it’s hard to go through it all. Maybe he just hasn’t reached your message yet. :-) At the same time, he needs to choose what he feels is valuable for the community here, I’m sure he has tons of people sending him things for this blog. For me, I would focus on building a relationship with someone that I would love to promote my tips and maybe you have I don’t know. This skill just tends to be easier sometimes for us women. Good luck with your tips!

    @Carlos In one of the forums I frequent this exact message came across… Does Twitter feel like highschool to you? I just also mentioned that to Oren, that it’s best to focus on building a real friendship with someone before expecting anything in response or return. Thanks also for posting your comment, you’ve shown a bit of the other side to this and that’s don’t be the whiny kid that annoys everyone.

    @Jennine The best part is that we can just stop following those that are doing these sorts of things. It’s the value that YOU choose as a user and that is not snobby at all. :-)

  • November 27, 2008

    So, if you’re using Twitter all wrong, say I!
    *I*

  • November 27, 2008

    I like what Rae said about acknowledgment. I could never follow everyone back and stay sane at the same time. But, I do look at my @replies a few times throughout the day and respond to anyone that’s asked me something, said something to me, or what have you. Even if it’s just to say, “Hey thanks for the tweet” even if I don’t directly follow that person.

    I think Twitter is what you make of it. It’s a tool and each person should use it how they see fit. I realize it wasn’t designed to be an instant messenger service, but at the same time I don’t see why that means we can’t have short threads of conversation from time to time.

  • June 6, 2009

    Nice to think of twitter as a way to keep in touch, but people will use it as it works for them. And that would be different for everybody I guess.

  • April 19, 2010

    I always thought Twitter was about finding people that you wanted to follow because you were interested in what they were saying. That’s what i use twitter for. I don’t expect someone to be interested in what I have to say simply because I made the decision to follow them.

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